Post by davidhr on Mar 5, 2016 13:15:41 GMT -5
This ‘breaking news’ update is occasioned by the release of the video for ‘L’oubli’ and Lara’s explanation that it relates to her mother. Here is the message she left on her website:
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When one of our loved ones is subject to a neurodegenerative disease, the loving look we put upon him or her, upon our family, is the strongest thing that remains.
Even in the most violent tempest, submerged by sadness and loss. even when words are failing… this loving look makes a difference.
Today, I testify, to free those of us who live this painful “voyage” from the mutism, the silence and the taboo, which prevent this look and this connection.
Today, my family and I, our hearts laid bare, testify by putting our look upon all those, who urgently need comfort, empathy and relief.
This is our testimony on “L’Oubli”
I’ve learned that one is never lonely, when the look of love is upon us…
Lara Fabian
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The video can be found at:
tinyurl.com/parisienloubli
We noted previously that it would be tricky to make, given the subject. Lara handled it in a very sensitive way, with faces of her relatives who are involved, including her mother. As one can see, ‘Le Parisien in effect is presenting this video first, and they accompanied it with the following (translated) statement:
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To illustrate her song "L’oubli", on Alzheimer's disease and the suffering of her mother, Lara Fabian has made a sober and moving film where she got together her family. "I put a camera on a tripod. I asked each member of my family to sit down and look at the camera, as if watching my mom." The faces of her relatives are filmed in close-up, with faces that are kind, calm, sad or filled with tears, until the one of Luisa, the mother of Lara Fabian at the end of the film. "I hesitated to put it. That's why it appears only once. I asked her. She agreed. All this that I did around that song, she knows it." The film, to discover today previewed on leparisien.fr, will not be broadcast on television but visible only on the social networks of the singer.
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And here was a (translated) interview with Lara about it in 'Le Parisien' (http://www.leparisien.fr/actualite-people-medias/video-lara-fabian-mon-combat-pour-ma-maman-05-03-2016-5600575.php#xtref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2F):
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VIDEO. LARA FABIAN: “My Fight for My Mom”
The song is called “L’oubli” ["Oblivion"]. It came out a few months ago and is on the last album of Lara Fabian, "Ma vie dans la tienne." But the singer had not told all about the history of this title she wrote in one go, as an outlet.
The singer evokes with decency DCL, a neuro-degenerative disease, close to Alzheimer’s, that affects millions of people. She tells especially about the case of her mother, Luisa, aged 75, with this type of pathology. Lara Fabian illustrated it with a film [to discover below] where her mother appears. For the first time, she agreed to bring up this intimate story.
Why talk about the disease of your mom today?
LARA FABIAN. Until then, I wanted to remain silent. I covered this song, "L’oubli" as the narrator of a story. I've realized that the stigma of this disease is terrible, the silence in which it ties up some patients and their families is a real pain. As a public figure, I can move consciences, things. Then I saw what many people experience when they are faced with this problem: a form of internal crisis, shame, misunderstanding.
What kind of stigma?
LARA FABIAN. Many people with dementia are hiding out. Because in dementia there is the caricature notion of "madness", it's scary to talk about that. To speak, it is to see how we can help families and motivate research. It affects a lot of people: More than 46 million people worldwide, 10.5 million in Europe.
How did it start for your mother?
LARA FABIAN. By small things, over some years: "I can not find my keys, I can not find my phone.” My mom was studying literature. She is someone very lively, alert, intelligent. And suddenly it's not the same person you have in front of you.
What did you do ?
LARA FABIAN. First, I did not understand. Then I tried to be present, to establish a true medical diagnosis, Then to support my family: my mom, my dad. And then it was necessary to collect myself, I who am hyper linked to my mother, Sicilian. The first language I spoke, Italian, it's hers, the first food that I loved, is that of her home in southern Italy. I am an only child. It is a strong and close relationship between us.
It she still home today?
LARA FABIAN. Yes. There is always someone with her. I live just next door. She sees me every day, she sees her granddaughter (note: Lou, 8 years) every day, her husband. In this Sicilian family, we have made a chain of love to hold her. You can not imagine the power of my hand which touches her, a kiss on her cheek, of taking her in my arms, of laughing with her. It is then that she becomes herself the most. My mom still lives in her house. Being surrounded by things you love, furniture, pictures, continues to feed the part of her brain still alive. And it is necessary to put things on the right track so that she remembers.
"From her childhood, that she remembers," you say in the song. It is easier to talk about the past?
LARA FABIAN. Absolutely. It's beautiful, because we feed on stories that she has permanently integrated and that I had completely forgotten about my childhood, or her childhood. She remembers the house numbers where she lived in Sicily, what she ate, odors.
She still recognizes you?
LARA FABIAN. Yes. Sometimes, there are identity transfers, but not with me. I remain a true beacon for her.
Are you afraid of some critics who will see commercial exploitation of your family history?
LARA FABIAN. Whatever one does, one is exposed to everything and its opposite. We must stop doing based on what people think. I am in tune with who I am. I do this so that it can help other people as affected as our family.
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Sad. Very sad. DCL stands for "La démence à corps de Lewy". According to Wikipedia, "it is a type of dementia that shares characteristics with Parkinson's disease and Alzheimer's disease. It is manifested by cognitive disorders with progressive and fluctuating evolution, associated with visual hallucinations and movement disorders (tremors, slurred speech, etc) . The treatment is only symptomatic."
The appearance of this song on the album suggested something personal, as the other songs were. One feels for her and her family. .
Sending to Lara and her mother positive hopes and love would seem to be the appropriate thing to do.
David
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When one of our loved ones is subject to a neurodegenerative disease, the loving look we put upon him or her, upon our family, is the strongest thing that remains.
Even in the most violent tempest, submerged by sadness and loss. even when words are failing… this loving look makes a difference.
Today, I testify, to free those of us who live this painful “voyage” from the mutism, the silence and the taboo, which prevent this look and this connection.
Today, my family and I, our hearts laid bare, testify by putting our look upon all those, who urgently need comfort, empathy and relief.
This is our testimony on “L’Oubli”
I’ve learned that one is never lonely, when the look of love is upon us…
Lara Fabian
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The video can be found at:
tinyurl.com/parisienloubli
We noted previously that it would be tricky to make, given the subject. Lara handled it in a very sensitive way, with faces of her relatives who are involved, including her mother. As one can see, ‘Le Parisien in effect is presenting this video first, and they accompanied it with the following (translated) statement:
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To illustrate her song "L’oubli", on Alzheimer's disease and the suffering of her mother, Lara Fabian has made a sober and moving film where she got together her family. "I put a camera on a tripod. I asked each member of my family to sit down and look at the camera, as if watching my mom." The faces of her relatives are filmed in close-up, with faces that are kind, calm, sad or filled with tears, until the one of Luisa, the mother of Lara Fabian at the end of the film. "I hesitated to put it. That's why it appears only once. I asked her. She agreed. All this that I did around that song, she knows it." The film, to discover today previewed on leparisien.fr, will not be broadcast on television but visible only on the social networks of the singer.
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And here was a (translated) interview with Lara about it in 'Le Parisien' (http://www.leparisien.fr/actualite-people-medias/video-lara-fabian-mon-combat-pour-ma-maman-05-03-2016-5600575.php#xtref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2F):
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VIDEO. LARA FABIAN: “My Fight for My Mom”
The song is called “L’oubli” ["Oblivion"]. It came out a few months ago and is on the last album of Lara Fabian, "Ma vie dans la tienne." But the singer had not told all about the history of this title she wrote in one go, as an outlet.
The singer evokes with decency DCL, a neuro-degenerative disease, close to Alzheimer’s, that affects millions of people. She tells especially about the case of her mother, Luisa, aged 75, with this type of pathology. Lara Fabian illustrated it with a film [to discover below] where her mother appears. For the first time, she agreed to bring up this intimate story.
Why talk about the disease of your mom today?
LARA FABIAN. Until then, I wanted to remain silent. I covered this song, "L’oubli" as the narrator of a story. I've realized that the stigma of this disease is terrible, the silence in which it ties up some patients and their families is a real pain. As a public figure, I can move consciences, things. Then I saw what many people experience when they are faced with this problem: a form of internal crisis, shame, misunderstanding.
What kind of stigma?
LARA FABIAN. Many people with dementia are hiding out. Because in dementia there is the caricature notion of "madness", it's scary to talk about that. To speak, it is to see how we can help families and motivate research. It affects a lot of people: More than 46 million people worldwide, 10.5 million in Europe.
How did it start for your mother?
LARA FABIAN. By small things, over some years: "I can not find my keys, I can not find my phone.” My mom was studying literature. She is someone very lively, alert, intelligent. And suddenly it's not the same person you have in front of you.
What did you do ?
LARA FABIAN. First, I did not understand. Then I tried to be present, to establish a true medical diagnosis, Then to support my family: my mom, my dad. And then it was necessary to collect myself, I who am hyper linked to my mother, Sicilian. The first language I spoke, Italian, it's hers, the first food that I loved, is that of her home in southern Italy. I am an only child. It is a strong and close relationship between us.
It she still home today?
LARA FABIAN. Yes. There is always someone with her. I live just next door. She sees me every day, she sees her granddaughter (note: Lou, 8 years) every day, her husband. In this Sicilian family, we have made a chain of love to hold her. You can not imagine the power of my hand which touches her, a kiss on her cheek, of taking her in my arms, of laughing with her. It is then that she becomes herself the most. My mom still lives in her house. Being surrounded by things you love, furniture, pictures, continues to feed the part of her brain still alive. And it is necessary to put things on the right track so that she remembers.
"From her childhood, that she remembers," you say in the song. It is easier to talk about the past?
LARA FABIAN. Absolutely. It's beautiful, because we feed on stories that she has permanently integrated and that I had completely forgotten about my childhood, or her childhood. She remembers the house numbers where she lived in Sicily, what she ate, odors.
She still recognizes you?
LARA FABIAN. Yes. Sometimes, there are identity transfers, but not with me. I remain a true beacon for her.
Are you afraid of some critics who will see commercial exploitation of your family history?
LARA FABIAN. Whatever one does, one is exposed to everything and its opposite. We must stop doing based on what people think. I am in tune with who I am. I do this so that it can help other people as affected as our family.
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Sad. Very sad. DCL stands for "La démence à corps de Lewy". According to Wikipedia, "it is a type of dementia that shares characteristics with Parkinson's disease and Alzheimer's disease. It is manifested by cognitive disorders with progressive and fluctuating evolution, associated with visual hallucinations and movement disorders (tremors, slurred speech, etc) . The treatment is only symptomatic."
The appearance of this song on the album suggested something personal, as the other songs were. One feels for her and her family. .
Sending to Lara and her mother positive hopes and love would seem to be the appropriate thing to do.
David
